{"id":465,"date":"2023-07-11T08:16:47","date_gmt":"2023-07-11T08:16:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/?p=465"},"modified":"2023-07-11T08:22:05","modified_gmt":"2023-07-11T08:22:05","slug":"inca-un-articol-despre-narcisisti-sa-nu-l-citesti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/2023\/07\/11\/inca-un-articol-despre-narcisisti-sa-nu-l-citesti\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00cenc\u0103 un articol despre narcisi\u0219ti. S\u0103 nu-l cite\u0219ti."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">O, da\u2026narcisi\u0219tii.&nbsp; Se uit\u0103 \u00een fiecare oglind\u0103 pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 care trec sau \u00een orice \u201eceva\u201d care le reflect\u0103 imaginea: vitrin\u0103, geam de ma\u0219in\u0103, u\u0219a de intrare de la bloc.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Doar sunt darul lui Dumnezeu pentru univers \u2013 la urma urmei, de ce altceva ar fi a\u0219eza\u021bi exact \u00een mijlocul lui??<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar, nu-i at\u00e2t de simplu: narcisismul este mult mai complex \u0219i este\u2026mult mai enervant de at\u00e2t!!!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Da, este un sentiment umflat de importan\u021b\u0103 personal\u0103 \u0219i o dorin\u021b\u0103 de admira\u021bie constant\u0103, combinat\u0103 cu o lips\u0103 devastatoare de empatie pentru ceilal\u021bi. Lumea trebuie s\u0103 se \u00eenv\u00e2rte \u00een jurul persoanei lor, iar to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi sunt doar ni\u0219te figuran\u021bi angaja\u021bi s\u0103 joace \u00een filmul \u201dEu, eu \u0219i eu\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar, \u00eenainte de a \u00eencepe s\u0103 ar\u0103\u021bi cu degetul c\u0103tre fostul t\u0103u iubit sau iubit\u0103 sau c\u0103tre \u0219eful t\u0103u de la ultimul job, re\u021bine: cu to\u021bii avem o pic\u0103tur\u0103 de narcisism \u00een noi. Doar c\u0103 unii oameni au primit c\u00e2teva pic\u0103turi \u00een plus. Sau o g\u0103leat\u0103 de pic\u0103turi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A\u0219a c\u0103, hai s\u0103 ne arunc\u0103m \u00een groapa cu lei \u0219i s\u0103 vedem ce e cu dragii no\u0219tri narcisi\u0219ti. \u0218i cine \u0219tie\u2026 am putea chiar s\u0103 ne d\u0103m seama cum s\u0103 le facem fa\u021b\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 ne pierdem min\u021bile?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">CE ESTE NARCISISMUL?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, s\u0103 clarific\u0103m ce este de fapt narcisismul. Nu o s\u0103 fac pe specialistul (de\u0219i sunt\u2026hopa, cumva\u2026?) \u0219i nu o s\u0103 merg pe firul DSM-ului, o s\u0103 merg pe l\u00e2ng\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un narcisist ar putea crede despre el \u00eensu\u0219i c\u0103 este excep\u021bional de mega extraordinar ca persoan\u0103 sau excep\u021bional de dezavantajat (nedrept\u0103\u021bit, persecutat, deprivat). \u00cen oricare dintre cazuri, regulile care se aplic\u0103 tuturor celorlal\u021bi muritori,&nbsp; nu i se aplic\u0103 lui.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Narcisistul nu datoreaz\u0103 lumii nimic, \u00een timp ce lumea \u00eei datoreaz\u0103 totul.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A\u0219a cum \u00een via\u021b\u0103 nu este totul \u00een alb \u0219i negru, narcisismul este \u0219i el pe zone de gri, mai deschis sau mai \u00eenchis. Nimeni nu este 0% sau 100% narcisist, ci e vorba de un spectru. Cu to\u021bii manifest\u0103m c\u00e2teva tr\u0103s\u0103turi narcisiste \u2013 adic\u0103 ne cerem dreptul de a fi mega giga extra \u00een anumite zile ale noastre (se nume\u0219te stil de personalitate).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar, la cap\u0103tul cel\u0103lalt, cel extrem, o persoan\u0103 ar putea suferi de o tulburare de personalitate \u00een toat\u0103 regula. \u0218i chiar \u0219i cei care sunt diagnostica\u021bi clinic se vor \u00eencadra de-a lungul unui alt spectru: de la indivizi cu func\u021bionare \u00eenalt\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la tulbur\u0103ri nevrotice complexe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De-a lungul vie\u021bii noastre, cu to\u021bii ne angaj\u0103m \u00een ceva comportamente narcisiste la un moment dat. Problema apare atunci c\u00e2nd narcisismul devine \u201esetarea\u201d noastr\u0103 implicit\u0103 \u0219i nu realiz\u0103m c\u0103 ne comport\u0103m ca un narcisist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">TIPURI DE NARCISISM<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201eNarcisismul grandios\u201d este cel la care ne g\u00e2ndim cel mai mult atunci c\u00e2nd spunem c\u0103 cineva este narcisist. Sunt tic\u0103lo\u0219ii cu obrazul sub\u021bire, care caut\u0103 aten\u021bia, sunt arogan\u021bi, care nu \u021bin seama de nevoile altora \u0219i vor exploata orice \u0219i pe oricine, oric\u00e2nd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acum, ce s\u0103 zic\u2026poate c\u0103 \u0219tim fiecare pe cineva care nu se g\u00e2nde\u0219te la ceilal\u021bi, ci doar la el \u00eensu\u0219i, care t\u00e2nje\u0219te dup\u0103 mult\u0103 aten\u021bie \u0219i admira\u021bie. \u0102\u0219tia nu pot accepta criticile, dau vina pe to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi atunci c\u00e2nd lucrurile merg prost \u0219i se a\u0219teapt\u0103 s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 un tratament special (\u00eenc\u0103 unul) pentru c\u0103 sunt deasupra muritorilor, a oamenilor obi\u0219nui\u021bi \u0219i \u201enormali\u201d care se aliniaz\u0103 \u00eenghesui\u021bi \u00een spatele lor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar\u2026aici vine \u0219mecheria. Ace\u0219ti indivizi au un farmec aparte, cel pu\u021bin la \u00eenceput. \u00cencrederea de sine pe care o afi\u0219eaz\u0103, poate fi atr\u0103g\u0103toare, mai ales dac\u0103 e\u0219ti o persoan\u0103 care nu prea are (spre deloc) \u00eencredere \u00een sine. Dar prostiile lor se \u201e\u00eemput\u201d repede. Ghinioni\u0219tii \u00ee\u0219i dau seama t\u00e2rziu, prea t\u00e2rziu. \u00cenvinov\u0103\u021birea altora, gaslightning-ul, manipularea, modul \u00een care \u00eentorc constant totul \u00een favoarea lor\u2026este epuizant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Semne \u0219i semnale de luat \u00een seama, ale unui narcisist grandios:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>arogant, l\u0103ud\u0103ros \u0219i mereu \u00een primul r\u00e2nd de scaune la primirea laudelor;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u00ee\u0219i exagereaz\u0103 realiz\u0103rile \u0219i\/sau talentele;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>au nevoie de admira\u021bie \u0219i laude constante;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>sunt convin\u0219i c\u0103 toat\u0103 lumea este invidioas\u0103 \u0219i geloas\u0103&nbsp; pe ei;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>au o preocupare constant\u0103 pentru succes, putere, str\u0103lucire, frumuse\u021be \u0219i\/sau partenerul ideal;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>profit\u0103 \u0219i exploateaz\u0103 pe oricine \u00eei pic\u0103 \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103 pentru c\u00e2\u0219tig personal;&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>lipsi\u021bi de empatie ( cu asta trebuia s\u0103 \u00eencep??)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>au despre sine un sentiment de unicitate pe care doar al\u021bi oameni tot speciali \u0219i unici \u00eel pot \u00een\u021belege&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>au mereu a\u0219tept\u0103ri nerezonabile pentru un tratament special, dedicat persoanei lor<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">NARCISISTUL VULNERABIL<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ei \u0219i acum\u2026las\u0103-m\u0103 s\u0103 zugr\u0103vesc un col\u021b de perete, cu un alt personaj pe care \u00eel cunoa\u0219tem cu to\u021bii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acesta este mult mai rezervat \u0219i chipurile nu caut\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat aten\u021bia \u00een toate&nbsp; modurile de mai sus. Uneori pot fi timizi \u0219i chiar au o fe\u021bele c\u0103zute de la prea mult\u0103 dezam\u0103gire, ve\u021bi vedea de ce \u00een continuare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar\u2026asemenea unui narcisist grandios, sunt hipersensibili \u0219i au nevoie de o validare constant\u0103. \u00cens\u0103, spre deosebire de un narcisist grandios, \u0103\u0219tia nu cred c\u0103 sunt mai buni dec\u00e2t to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi. De fapt, ei cred contrariul!!! Sunt victime! Sunt asupri\u021bi, du\u0219m\u0103ni\u021bi, h\u0103itui\u021bi \u00een mod constant de to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Narcisismul vulnerabil este o form\u0103 mai subtil\u0103 de narcisism. Dar tot narcisism este. Diferen\u021ba este c\u0103 un narcisist grandios crede c\u0103 este unic prin superioritate, \u00een timp ce narcisistul vulnerabil crede c\u0103 este unic prin\u2026inferioritate .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un narcisist grandios crede c\u0103 este unic privilegiat, \u00een timp ce un narcisist vulnerabil crede c\u0103 este unic defavorizat. Un narcisist grandios se m\u00e2ndre\u0219te c\u0103 profit\u0103 de ceilal\u021bi, \u00een timp ce un narcisist vulnerabil se m\u00e2ndre\u0219te c\u0103 se profit\u0103 de el.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La fel ca narcisistul grandios, narcisistul vulnerabil crede c\u0103 merit\u0103 un tratament special din cauza unicit\u0103\u021bii lor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acestea sunt ve\u0219nicele victime de serviciu, neobosite \u00een a g\u0103si motive de nemul\u021bumire. Ei pot fi timizi \u0219i par sl\u0103bi\u021bi de at\u00e2ta suferin\u021b\u0103. Dar sub acel exterior \u00eengrozit este un sentiment de grandiozitate. Se vor sup\u0103ra din cele mai neobi\u0219nuite motive \u0219i sunt fr\u0103m\u00e2nta\u021bi de orice problem\u0103 mai mic\u0103 sau mai mare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Semne:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>arat\u0103 supus (adic\u0103 o fa\u021b\u0103 c\u0103zut\u0103)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>mereu sunt la p\u0103m\u00e2nt, tr\u00e2nti\u021bi de soart\u0103 sau de al\u021bii.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>se simt sub aprecia\u021bi \u0219i declar\u0103 c\u0103 nu li se recunosc realiz\u0103rile<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>sunt foarte u\u0219or de r\u0103nit \u0219i se simt jigni\u021bi cu u\u0219urin\u021b\u0103<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>sunt invidio\u0219i \u0219i gelo\u0219i pe ceilal\u021bi<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>devin foarte repede stresa\u021bi<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>nu au grij\u0103 de ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i, de s\u0103n\u0103tatea lor sau de starea lor general\u0103<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>au \u0219i a\u0219tia un sentiment aparte c\u0103 sunt speciali \u0219i unici pe care doar al\u021bi oameni speciali \u0219i unici \u00eel pot \u00een\u021belege<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>au a\u0219tept\u0103ri nerezonabile pentru un tratament special, dedicat lor \u00een exclusivitate.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De\u0219i narcisi\u0219tii grandiosi \u0219i vulnerabili sunt diferi\u021bi \u00een feluri destul de clare, ambele tipologii sunt extraordinare de absorbite de sine \u0219i au un sentiment de sine fragil, pe care trebuie s\u0103-l men\u021bin\u0103 consider\u00e2ndu-se excep\u021bionali \u2013 din nou, fie excep\u021bional de extraordinari, fie excep\u021bional de deficitari.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ei neag\u0103 orice realitate care nu le sus\u021bine percep\u021bia grandioas\u0103 de sine \u0219i ca urmare, tind s\u0103 se angajeze doar \u00een rela\u021bii superficiale sau s\u0103 se retrag\u0103 cu totul din situa\u021biile sociale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen esen\u021b\u0103, ambele tipuri de narcisi\u0219ti \u200b\u200bsunt indivizi care cred \u00eentr-un mod exagerat de \u201e\u00eendrept\u0103\u021bi\u021bire\u201d, care cred c\u0103 sunt speciali \u0219i c\u0103 li se aplic\u0103 reguli diferite de tratament \u00een via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">DE UNDE NARCISISMUL?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Narcisismul este o tr\u0103s\u0103tur\u0103 de personalitate destul de complex\u0103, iar psihologii nu au descoperit complet cum ia na\u0219tere, dar sunt totu\u0219i c\u00e2teva indicii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, anumite abord\u0103ri ale p\u0103rintelui \u00een perioada de cre\u0219tere a copilului, par s\u0103 influen\u021beze dezvoltarea narcisismului.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Exist\u0103 unele dovezi care sugereaz\u0103 c\u0103 ai no\u0219tri copii, sunt expu\u0219i unui risc mai mare de a dezvolta tr\u0103s\u0103turi&nbsp; narcisiste, dac\u0103 cresc cu p\u0103rin\u021bi autoritari, extrem de indulgen\u021bi sau prea neglijen\u021bi fa\u021b\u0103 de emo\u021biile copiilor lor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0103 le lu\u0103m pe r\u00e2nd:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">1. PARENTING AUTORITAR<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ace\u0219ti p\u0103rin\u021bi \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 controleze comportamentul copiilor lor \u00eentr-un mod nes\u0103n\u0103tos. Ei cer respectarea strict\u0103 a regulilor, oferind \u00een acela\u0219i timp prea pu\u021bin\u0103 c\u0103ldur\u0103, r\u0103bdare, sprijin sau comunicare deschis\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P\u0103rin\u021bii autoritari apreciaz\u0103 valoarea propriului copil doar prin realiz\u0103ri \u0219i rezultate, c\u00e2t \u0219i pe conformarea la reguli \u0219i norme. Asta \u00eel poate determina pe copii s\u0103 dezvolte un sentiment dezechilibat&nbsp; al importan\u021bei de sine, pentru a putea face fa\u021b\u0103 acestei presiuni. Ei pot dezvolta de asemenea, un puternic sentiment de \u201e\u00eendrept\u0103\u021bire\u201e (\u00eencurcate c\u0103ile Domnului!) ca mecanism de ap\u0103rare \u00eempotriva sentimentului de \u201eneiubire\u201d sau al insuficien\u021bei de sine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2. PARENTING INDULGENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La cap\u0103tul opus al spectrului, copiii care sunt prea valida\u021bi de p\u0103rin\u021bii care nu contenesc cu laudele \u0219i validarea tind, de asemenea, s\u0103 devin\u0103 narcisi\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 stai s\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti, nu este surprinz\u0103tor! C\u00e2nd un copil aude \u00een mod constant c\u00e2t de \u201especiai\u201d \u0219i \u201eminunat\u201d \u0219i \u201efrumos\u201d sunt (dac\u0103 am \u0219ti cu to\u021bii c\u00e2t de \u201enespeciali\u201d suntem de fapt \u0219i c\u00e2t de \u00een norm\u0103 suntem\u2026), ajung s\u0103 interiorizeze p\u0103rerile umflate ale p\u0103rin\u021bilor lor despre ei \u0219i tind s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 au dreptul la privilegii suplimentare \u00een via\u021b\u0103 (ia uite unde st\u0103 narcisistul grandios).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">3. PARENTING NEGLIJENT<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cunoscut \u0219i sub denumirea de parenting neimplicat, acest stil se caracterizeaz\u0103 prin niveluri sc\u0103zute at\u00e2t de c\u0103ldur\u0103, c\u00e2t \u0219i de control\u2026egal indiferent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P\u0103rin\u021bii neglijen\u021bi pot s\u0103 nu r\u0103spund\u0103 la nevoile copiilor lor \u0219i s\u0103 nu ofere \u00eendrumarea sau feedbackul necesar. De multe ori nu reu\u0219esc s\u0103 valideze emo\u021biile sau g\u00e2ndurile copiilor lor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ca r\u0103spuns, copiii pot dezvolta tr\u0103s\u0103turi narcisiste ca mecanism de adaptare, folosind un sentiment umflat al importan\u021bei de sine pentru a compensa sentimentul de neglijare \u0219i lips\u0103 de iubire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La suprafa\u021b\u0103, aceste stiluri de p\u0103rinte par foarte diferite, a\u0219a c\u0103 apare firesc \u00eentrebaea\u2026 cum ar putea ele toate s\u0103 contribuie la dezvoltarea narcisismului?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ei bine, singurul lucru pe care \u00eel au \u00een comun este faptul c\u0103 nu \u00eel ajut\u0103 pe copil s\u0103-\u0219i exprime pe deplin o identitate realist\u0103, independent\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P\u0103rin\u021bii autoritari controleaz\u0103 excesiv \u0219i, prin urmare, nu-\u0219i las\u0103 copiii s\u0103-\u0219i g\u0103seasc\u0103 propriul drum \u00een via\u021b\u0103. Acest lucru \u00eei face s\u0103 caute din ce \u00een ce mai mult\u0103 validare din exterior pentru a se sim\u021bi bine cu ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i, ceea ce s-ar putea transforma \u00een narcisism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">P\u0103rin\u021bii indulgen\u021bi, pe de alt\u0103 parte, ofer\u0103 prea pu\u021bine limite pentru copiii lor \u0219i, \u00een schimb, contribuie la un sentiment de sine umflat care nu se bazeaz\u0103 pe realitate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i p\u0103rin\u021bii neglijen\u021bi ofer\u0103 pu\u021bin sau deloc validare pentru nevoile emo\u021bionale ale copiilor lor, a\u0219a c\u0103 ar putea cre\u0219te narcisi\u0219ti \u200b\u200bpentru a compensa \u00een exces sentimentele de ru\u0219ine \u0219i inadecvare. Ru\u0219inea, de fapt, joac\u0103 un rol crucial \u00een persoanele care dezvolt\u0103 narcisism vulnerabil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">NU ESTE VINA DOAR A P\u0102RIN\u021aILOR T\u0102I!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cenainte de a \u00eencepe s\u0103-\u021bi ur\u0103\u0219ti p\u0103rin\u021bii (sau s\u0103-i ur\u0103\u0219ti mai mult dec\u00e2t o faci deja&#8230;) este important s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 parentingul este doar un factor care ar putea contribui la narcisism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cercet\u0103rile despre originile narcisismului sunt \u00eenc\u0103 \u00een desf\u0103\u0219urare. Nu \u0219tim cu adev\u0103rat cum ar putea contribui genetica, grupurile sociale, traumele \u0219i mul\u021bi, mul\u021bi al\u021bi factori.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De fapt, un echilibru \u00eentre fiecare dintre stilurile parentale de mai sus pare a fi antidotul pentru dezvoltarea narcisismului la copiii. P\u0103rin\u021bii care \u00ee\u0219i \u00eencurajeaz\u0103 copiii, manifest\u0103 c\u0103ldur\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de ei, stabilesc limite puternice \u0219i de asemenea, au standarde \u00eenalte pentru ei au toate \u0219ansele s\u0103 creasc\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 educe copii destul de bine adapta\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ideea mea este c\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 dai vina pe p\u0103rin\u021bi pentru tot, majoritatea a facut tot ce le-a stat \u00een putere \u0219i la urma urmei\u2026au avut \u0219i ei p\u0103rin\u021bi, corect?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">PROBLEMA CU NARCISISMUL<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ultimul deceniu sau dou\u0103 a avut loc o dezbatere&nbsp; public\u0103 despre posibilitatea unei \u201eepidemii\u201d de narcisism \u00een societatea noastr\u0103 actual\u0103, \u00een special \u00een r\u00e2ndul tinerilor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Realitatea este c\u0103 fiecare cultur\u0103 din istoria \u00eenregistrat\u0103 a avut de-a face cu narcisismul \u0219i cu nenum\u0103ratele probleme asociate cu acesta. La cap\u0103tul extrem, narcisismul a fost legat de abuzul de substan\u021be \u0219i de o gam\u0103 larg\u0103 de tulbur\u0103ri de personalitate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Narcisismul grandios tinde s\u0103 apar\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103 cu tr\u0103s\u0103turile antisociale \u0219i paranoia, \u00een timp ce narcisismul vulnerabil tinde s\u0103 fie \u00eenso\u021bit de depresie, anxietate \u0219i tendin\u021be suicidare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Oamenii cu tr\u0103s\u0103turi narcisiste grandioase tind s\u0103-\u0219i doreasc\u0103 putere, iar cei care ajung totu\u0219i \u00een pozi\u021bii de putere pot crea un mediu destul de toxic pentru \u201es\u0103racele suflete s\u0103race\u201d din ograda peste care domnesc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i, de\u0219i adesea narcisi\u0219tii grandiosi \u00eei vedem ca pe exploatatori, narcisi\u0219tii vulnerabili nu sunt, de asemenea, foarte buni la empatiza cu ceilal\u021bi \u0219i pot fi la fel de greu de tolerat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ba mai mult, narcisismul a fost \u00een mod constant legat de violen\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Este tulburarea de personalitate \u00een cre\u0219tere \u00een r\u00e2ndul oamenilor? Nici mai mult, nici mai pu\u021bin dec\u00e2t a fost dintotdeauna, doar c\u0103 acum pot fi mai u\u0219or recunoscu\u021bi dragii no\u0219tri narcisi\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">CUM S\u0102 TE DESCURCI CU OAMENII NARCISI\u0218TI<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Prima regul\u0103 de a trata cu oamenii narcisi\u0219ti este: s\u0103 spui \u201eNU\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 po\u021bi evita s\u0103 interac\u021bionezi cu un narcisist, atunci nu interac\u021biona cu el. Nu \u00eencerca\u021bi s\u0103-i convinge\u021bi, s\u0103-i schimba\u021bi, s\u0103-i \u201erepara\u021bi\u201d sau s\u0103-i faci s\u0103 se r\u0103zg\u00e2ndeasc\u0103. Probabil c\u0103 este imposibil \u0219i chiar dac\u0103 nu este, cu siguran\u021b\u0103 nu merit\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acestea fiind spuse, uneori tot trebuie s\u0103 ai de-a face cu o persoan\u0103 narcisist\u0103 \u0219i dac\u0103 va trebui s\u0103 ai de-a face cu ea, atunci este important s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi cum s\u0103 procedezi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Evident, modul \u00een care te descurci cu narcisi\u0219tii va varia \u00een func\u021bie de contextul \u00een care interac\u021bionezi cu ace\u0219tia; de exemplu, modul \u00een care te descurci cu un \u0219ef narcisist va fi diferit de modul \u00een care te descurci cu iubitul\/iubita sau p\u0103rin\u021bii t\u0103i narcisi\u0219ti (\u201enorocosule!\u201d). Chiar \u0219i \u00een acela\u0219i context, fiecare individ este diferit, a\u0219a c\u0103, evident, abordarea variaz\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar, practic cheia pentru a trata oamenii narcisi\u0219ti sunt grani\u021bele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Decide\u021bi c\u00e2t de mult sunte\u021bi dispus s\u0103 ave\u021bi fa\u021b\u0103 de ei \u0219i decide\u021bi \u00een ce m\u0103sur\u0103 sunte\u021bi dispus s\u0103 interac\u021biona\u021bi cu ei. Decide\u021bi dinainte ce sunte\u021bi dispus s\u0103 face\u021bi \u0219i ce s\u0103 nu face\u021bi cu ei, despre ce dori\u021bi \u0219i ce nu dori\u021bi s\u0103 vorbi\u021bi cu ei \u0219i ce dori\u021bi \u0219i nu dori\u021bi s\u0103 \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219i\u021bi cu ei. Apoi \u021bine-te de plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Narcisistii nu au nici o putere asupra ta, dac\u0103 ai \u0219i impui limite! Fie c\u0103 este vorba de colegii, prietenii, partenerul sau chiar familia ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Din p\u0103cate, cei mai mul\u021bi dintre noi st\u0103m prost la capitolul limite s\u0103n\u0103toase \u0219i, ca urmare, suntem implica\u021bi \u00een drame \u0219i ajungem s\u0103 facem lucruri pe care nu vrem cu adev\u0103rat s\u0103 le facem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A avea limite s\u0103n\u0103toase \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi asumi responsabilitatea pentru propriile ac\u021biuni \u0219i emo\u021bii&nbsp; \u0219i NU s\u0103-\u021bi asumi responsabilitatea pentru ac\u021biunile sau emo\u021biile altora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Colegul t\u0103u narcisist \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i asume meritul pentru munca ta \u0219i tu refuzi asta \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi aperi cu determinare drepturile \u0219i meritele. Prietenul t\u0103u narcisist \u00ee\u021bi cere cu&nbsp; \u00eemprumut bani, pentru c\u0103 i se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 mereu ceva r\u0103u \u0219i na\u2026 el are at\u00e2t de mult ghinion \u0219i este nedrept\u0103\u021bit. Partenerul t\u0103u narcisist te h\u0103r\u021buie\u0219te pentru a te sim\u021bi vinovat c\u0103 ai r\u0103mas p\u00e2n\u0103 t\u00e2rziu la serviciu \u0219i te temi de prostiile de reac\u021bii pe care le au. La toate astea spune un \u201eNU\u201d ferm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 nu-i po\u021bi evita \u0219i totu\u0219i ai narcisi\u0219ti \u200b\u200b\u00een via\u021ba ta, \u00eenconjoar\u0103-te de grani\u021be. Deseneaz\u0103 linii \u00een nisip, grani\u021be, frontiere oricum vrei s\u0103 le spui \u0219i pune-le \u00een practic\u0103<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i acum cirea\u0219a de pe tort: CUM S\u0102 FACI FA\u021a\u0102 PROPRIULUI T\u0102U NARCISISM<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar dac\u0103 tu e\u0219ti narcisistul? Nu e\u0219ti sigur?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pune-\u021bi urm\u0103toarele \u00eentreb\u0103ri:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Sim\u021bi c\u0103 oamenii de multe ori nu te \u00een\u021beleg pe tine sau problemele tale?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sim\u021bi c\u0103 exist\u0103 multe bariere \u00een via\u021ba ta, asupra c\u0103rora nu ai control?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ceri adesea ajutor de la al\u021bii \u0219i\/sau sim\u021bi c\u0103 pu\u021bini oameni sunt dispu\u0219i s\u0103 te ajute?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sim\u021bi adeseori c\u0103 nu prime\u0219ti aten\u021bia sau aprecierea pe care o meri\u021bi?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Oamenii se pl\u00e2ng adesea c\u0103 nu \u00eei ascul\u021bi, c\u00e2nd, de fapt, sim\u021bi c\u0103 nu te ascult\u0103?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sim\u021bi c\u0103 majoritatea celorlal\u021bi oameni au o via\u021b\u0103 mult mai u\u0219oar\u0103 dec\u00e2t a ta?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Te lup\u021bi des (dispute, contraziceri) cu prietenii apropia\u021bi \u0219i cu cei dragi? Dac\u0103 da, de obicei este vina lor?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Oamenii renun\u021b\u0103 brusc la contactul cu tine f\u0103r\u0103 nicio explica\u021bie \u0219i refuz\u0103 s\u0103 comunice din nou cu tine?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Te sim\u021bi adesea neajutorat ca \u0219i cum ai avea pu\u021bine \u0219anse de a-\u021bi \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021bi via\u021ba?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 ai r\u0103spuns \u201eda\u201d la majoritatea celor de mai sus, atunci s-ar putea s\u0103 fii TU problema.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 recunoa\u0219te\u021bi \u0219i accepta\u021bi c\u0103 ave\u021bi tr\u0103s\u0103turi narcisiste, felicit\u0103ri: a\u021bi ajuns mai departe dec\u00e2t vor face vreodat\u0103 majoritatea oamenilor narcisi\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Narcisismul clinic este dificil de tratat, este notoriu acest lucru. Nu exist\u0103 nicio terapie dovedit\u0103 ca fiind de succes (din p\u0103cate nici medicamente), iar numeroasele terapii recomandate practicate \u00een mod obi\u0219nuit necesit\u0103 efort \u0219i implicare pe termen lung. Pe scurt: caut\u0103 ajutor profesionist \u0219i a\u0219teapt\u0103-te la o lupt\u0103 pe termen lung.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 manifesti pur \u0219i simplu tr\u0103s\u0103turi de narcisism uneori, am c\u00e2teva sfaturi \u2013 sau mai degrab\u0103, c\u00e2teva adev\u0103ruri care schimb\u0103 via\u021ba \u2013 pentru a ajuta la reducerea tendin\u021belor tale narcisiste.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Narcisismul se rezum\u0103 la a crede c\u0103 e\u0219ti special \u0219i c\u0103 ai dreptul s\u0103 fii tratat diferit dec\u00e2t al\u021bii. Antidotul \u2013 \u0219i acest lucru este mai u\u0219or de spus dec\u00e2t de f\u0103cut \u2013 este pur \u0219i simplu s\u0103 accep\u021bi c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti special.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">De fapt, e\u0219ti medie la aproape orice, de cele mai multe ori. \u0218i asta este \u00een regul\u0103. Nu trebuie s\u0103 fii special sau grozav la ceva pentru a fi o persoan\u0103 demn\u0103 sau pentru a tr\u0103i o via\u021b\u0103 plin\u0103 de sens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen loc s\u0103 \u00eemplete\u0219ti nara\u021biuni elaborate pentru a te convinge de c\u00e2t de special e\u0219ti, ar fi mult mai bine s\u0103 evi\u021bi s\u0103 te etichetezi \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi vezi de via\u021ba ta \u00een continuare .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu \u0219tii dac\u0103 e\u0219ti grozav sau nu, \u0219i asta e \u00een regul\u0103. Oricum vei face tot posibilul. Nu \u0219tii dac\u0103 e\u0219ti victim\u0103 sau nu. Asta e bine. Oricum te vei face mai bine \u0219i te vei sim\u021bi din nou s\u0103n\u0103tos. Nu \u0219tii dac\u0103 meri\u021bi un tratament bun sau r\u0103u \u0219i asta e \u00een regul\u0103. \u00ce\u021bi vei asuma responsabilitatea oricum pentru via\u021ba ta oricum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u0103se\u0219te satisfac\u021bie \u00een pl\u0103cerile simple, cotitidiene ale vie\u021bii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen fiecare zi c\u00e2nd te treze\u0219ti, bucur\u0103-te c\u0103 e\u0219ti \u00eenc\u0103 \u00een via\u021b\u0103. Uime\u0219te-te de minunile pastei de din\u021bi, atunci c\u00e2nd te speli pe din\u021bi, \u00een fiecare diminea\u021b\u0103. Vezi frumuse\u021bea \u00een modul \u00een care lumina se reflect\u0103 pe suprafa\u021ba ma\u0219inilor de pe strad\u0103. Fii curios \u00een privin\u021ba altor persoane.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu e\u0219ti \u201edestinat\u201d m\u0103re\u021biei. Nu e\u0219ti destinat la nimic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nu mai \u00eencerca at\u00e2t de mult s\u0103 dovede\u0219ti c\u0103 e\u0219ti mai bun dec\u00e2t to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi. Nu te mai v\u0103ita despre c\u00e2t de nedreapt\u0103 a fost lumea cu tine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Respir\u0103 ad\u00e2nc \u0219i continu\u0103-\u021bi ziua.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La fel ca to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Narcisitul-grandios-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-466\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Narcisitul-grandios-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Narcisitul-grandios-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Narcisitul-grandios-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Narcisitul-grandios-1200x675.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/Narcisitul-grandios.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/NARCISITUL-VULNERABIL-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-467\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/NARCISITUL-VULNERABIL-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/NARCISITUL-VULNERABIL-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/NARCISITUL-VULNERABIL-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/NARCISITUL-VULNERABIL-1200x675.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/NARCISITUL-VULNERABIL.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/DAR-DACA-TU-ESTI-NARCISISTUL-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-468\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/DAR-DACA-TU-ESTI-NARCISISTUL-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/DAR-DACA-TU-ESTI-NARCISISTUL-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/DAR-DACA-TU-ESTI-NARCISISTUL-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/DAR-DACA-TU-ESTI-NARCISISTUL-1200x675.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/DAR-DACA-TU-ESTI-NARCISISTUL.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>O, da\u2026narcisi\u0219tii.&nbsp; Se uit\u0103 \u00een fiecare oglind\u0103 pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 care trec sau \u00een orice \u201eceva\u201d care le reflect\u0103 imaginea: vitrin\u0103, geam de ma\u0219in\u0103, u\u0219a de intrare de la bloc.&nbsp; Doar sunt darul lui Dumnezeu pentru univers \u2013 la urma urmei, de ce altceva ar fi a\u0219eza\u021bi exact \u00een mijlocul lui?? Dar, nu-i at\u00e2t de simplu: [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"","sticky":true,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"saved_in_kubio":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,13,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-465","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-evaluare-clinica","category-psihologie-clinica","category-psihoterapie"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/465","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=465"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/465\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":472,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/465\/revisions\/472"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=465"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=465"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=465"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}