{"id":233,"date":"2020-01-13T14:50:48","date_gmt":"2020-01-13T14:50:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/?p=233"},"modified":"2021-09-08T20:46:17","modified_gmt":"2021-09-08T20:46:17","slug":"decalogul-rationalitatii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/2020\/01\/13\/decalogul-rationalitatii\/","title":{"rendered":"Decalogul rationalitatii"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Elaborat de psihologul Daniel David \u00een 2012, \u00een baza dezvolt\u0103rilor mai recente din terapia ra\u0163ional-emotiv\u0103 \u015fi cognitiv-comportamental\u0103; versiuni anterioare ale Decalogului Ra\u0163ionalit\u0103\u0163ii au fost publicate de acela\u015fi autor, \u00eencep\u00e2nd din anul 2000 (vezi \u015fi<a href=\"http:\/\/www.clinicalpsychology.ro\/terapie-autoadministrata\/pastile-psihologice\/\">&nbsp;aici<\/a>).<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Pentru a via\u0163\u0103 ra\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi fericit\u0103 a se citi zilnic, diminea\u0163a sau seara \u00eenainte de culcare, timp de o lun\u0103, iar apoi, cu rol preventiv, o dat\u0103 pe lun\u0103:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">1. AR FI PREFERABIL s\u0103 reu\u015fe\u015fti \u00een tot ceea ce faci \u015fi f\u0103 tot ce depinde omene\u015fte de tine \u00een acest sens, DAR DAC\u0102 NU REU\u015eE\u015eTI, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti f\u0103r\u0103 valoare ca om, ci doar c\u0103 ai avut un comportament mai pu\u0163in performant, care probabil poate fi \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u0163it \u00een viitor. Ca om e\u015fti valoros prin simplul fapt c\u0103 exi\u015fti. A\u015fadar, este bine s\u0103 te accep\u0163i necondi\u0163ionat, dar asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103-\u0163i accep\u0163i imediat \u015fi necondi\u0163ionat&nbsp;\u015fi e\u015fecurile, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eencerci m\u0103car s\u0103 le corectezi, at\u00e2t c\u00e2t este omene\u015fte posibil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2. AR FI PREFERABIL s\u0103 reu\u015fe\u015fti \u00een tot ceea ce faci \u015fi f\u0103 tot ce depinde omene\u015fte de tine \u00een acest sens, DAR DAC\u0102 NU REU\u015eE\u015eTI, aminte\u015fte-\u0163i c\u0103 este doar (foarte) r\u0103u, f\u0103r\u0103 a fi \u00eens\u0103 catastrofal (cel mai r\u0103u lucru care \u0163i se putea \u00eent\u00e2mpla) \u015fi c\u0103 po\u0163i g\u0103si mul\u0163umire \u00een alte activit\u0103\u0163i, chiar dac\u0103 este mai greu la \u00eenceput. Indiferent c\u00e2t de r\u0103u este r\u0103ul care \u0163i s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, nu este cel mai mare r\u0103u care \u0163i se poate \u00eent\u00e2mpla!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">3. AR FI PREFERABIL s\u0103 reu\u015fe\u015fti \u00een tot ceea ce faci \u015fi f\u0103 tot ce depinde omene\u015fte de tine \u00een acest sens, DAR DAC\u0102 NU REU\u015eE\u015eTI, po\u0163i tolera\/suporta acest lucru nepl\u0103cut \u015fi po\u0163i merge mai departe, g\u0103sind bucurie \u00een alte activit\u0103\u0163i, chiar dac\u0103 este mai greu la \u00eenceput.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">4. AR FI PREFERABIL ca ceilal\u0163i s\u0103 se comporte corect \u015fi\/sau frumos cu tine, DAR DAC\u0102 NU SE COMPORT\u0102 A\u015eA, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 tu sau ei sunte\u0163i f\u0103r\u0103 valoare ca oameni, ci doar c\u0103 au avut un comportament inadecvat care, \u00een principiu, poate fi schimbat \u00een viitor. Ceilal\u0163i sunt valoro\u015fi ca oameni prin simplul fapt c\u0103 exist\u0103. A\u015fadar, este bine s\u0103-i accep\u0163i necondi\u0163ionat ca oameni, dar asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 le accep\u0163i imediat \u015fi necondi\u0163ionat \u015fi comportamentele inadecvate, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eencerci, at\u00e2t c\u00e2t este omene\u015fte posibil, s\u0103-i faci s\u0103 \u015fi le corecteze<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">5. AR FI PREFERABIL ca ceilal\u0163i s\u0103 se comporte corect \u015fi\/sau frumos cu tine, DAR DAC\u0102 NU SE COMPORT\u0102 A\u015eA, aminte\u015fte-\u0163i c\u0103 este doar (foarte) r\u0103u, f\u0103r\u0103 a fi \u00eens\u0103 catastrofal (cel mai r\u0103u lucru care se putea \u00eent\u00e2mpla) \u015fi c\u0103 po\u0163i g\u0103si mul\u0163umire \u00een alte activit\u0103\u0163i, chiar dac\u0103 este mai greu la \u00eenceput.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">6. AR FI PREFERABIL ca ceilal\u0163i s\u0103 se comporte corect \u015fi\/sau frumos cu tine, DAR DAC\u0102 NU SE COMPORT\u0102 A\u015eA, po\u0163i tolera\/suporta acest lucru nepl\u0103cut \u015fi po\u0163i merge mai departe, g\u0103sind bucurie \u00een alte activit\u0103\u0163i, chiar dac\u0103 este mai greu la \u00eenceput.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">7. AR FI PREFERABIL ca via\u0163a s\u0103 fie \u00een general corect\u0103 (cu tine \u015fi\/sau ceilal\u0163i) \u015fi pl\u0103cut\u0103\/u\u015foar\u0103, DAR DAC\u0102 NU ESTE, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 via\u0163a este nedreapt\u0103 \u015fi\/sau c\u0103 tu e\u015fti f\u0103r\u0103 valoare ca om. Via\u0163a este un amestec de bun \u015fi r\u0103u, iar noi ar trebui s\u0103 maximiz\u0103m (dac\u0103 se poate) \u015fi\/sau s\u0103 vedem binele, reduc\u00e2nd (dac\u0103 se poate) \u015fi\/sau \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u00e2nd din r\u0103u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">8. AR FI PREFERABIL ca via\u0163a s\u0103 fie \u00een general corect\u0103 (cu tine \u015fi\/sau ceilal\u0163i) \u015fi pl\u0103cut\u0103\/u\u015foar\u0103, DAR DAC\u0102 NU ESTE, aminte\u015fte-\u0163i c\u0103 este doar (foarte) r\u0103u, f\u0103r\u0103 a fi \u00eens\u0103 catastrofal (cel mai r\u0103u lucru care se putea \u00eent\u00e2mpla) \u015fi c\u0103 po\u0163i g\u0103si mul\u0163umire \u00een activit\u0103\u0163i specifice, chiar dac\u0103 este mai greu la \u00eenceput.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">9. AR FI PREFERABIL ca via\u0163a s\u0103 fie \u00een general corect\u0103 (cu tine \u015fi\/sau ceilal\u0163i) \u015fi pl\u0103cut\u0103\/u\u015foar\u0103, DAR DAC\u0102 NU ESTE, po\u0163i tolera\/suporta acest lucru \u015fi po\u0163i merge mai departe, g\u0103sind bucurie \u00een activit\u0103\u0163i specifice, chiar dac\u0103 este mai greu la \u00eenceput<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">10. SINGURUL LUCRU CARE TREBUIE \u2013 de\u015fi \u015fi acesta este condi\u0163ional, non-absolutist: doar dac\u0103 dore\u015fti s\u0103 fii s\u0103n\u0103tos \u015fi fericit \u2013 ESTE C\u0102 NIMIC NU TREBUIE CU NECESITATE. Faptul c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i dore\u015fti un lucru foarte mult \u015fi faci tot ceea ce este omene\u015fte posibil s\u0103-l ob\u0163ii, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 acest lucru trebuie s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple cu necesitate. Altfel spus, este bine s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegem \u015fi s\u0103 accept\u0103m faptul c\u0103 nu scrie nic\u0103ieri c\u0103 dorin\u0163a noastr\u0103, fie ea intens\u0103 \u015fi justificat\u0103 prin efortul angajat \u00een atingerea ei, trebuie s\u0103 devin\u0103 realitate doar pentru c\u0103 noi dorim \u015fi lupt\u0103m pentru asta. Numai cerin\u0163ele\/dorin\u0163ele lui Dumnezeu pot dob\u00e2ndi obligatoriu realitate ontologic\u0103 (devin realitate); dorin\u0163ele noastre devin uneori realitate, iar alteori, chiar justificate fiind, r\u0103m\u00e2n simple dorin\u0163e deoarece via\u0163a \u015fi\/sau ceilal\u0163i ni le blocheaz\u0103 (sau chiar nu dau doi bani pe ele). A\u015fadar, este bine s\u0103 ne dorim lucruri, s\u0103 lupt\u0103m pentru ele, dar, \u00een acela\u015fi timp, s\u0103 fim gata s\u0103 accept\u0103m faptul c\u0103, \u00een ciuda efortului nostru, s-ar putea s\u0103 nu se \u00eent\u00e2mple ceea ce ne dorim. Ar fi bine s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegem \u015fi s\u0103 accept\u0103m acest lucru!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sursa aici:  <br><a href=\"https:\/\/danieldavidubb.wordpress.com\/2012\/06\/20\/decalogul-rationalitatii\/\">https:\/\/danieldavidubb.wordpress.com\/2012\/06\/20\/decalogul-rationalitatii\/<\/a> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Elaborat de psihologul Daniel David \u00een 2012, \u00een baza dezvolt\u0103rilor mai recente din terapia ra\u0163ional-emotiv\u0103 \u015fi cognitiv-comportamental\u0103; versiuni anterioare ale Decalogului Ra\u0163ionalit\u0103\u0163ii au fost publicate de acela\u015fi autor, \u00eencep\u00e2nd din anul 2000 (vezi \u015fi&nbsp;aici). Pentru a via\u0163\u0103 ra\u0163ional\u0103 \u015fi fericit\u0103 a se citi zilnic, diminea\u0163a sau seara \u00eenainte de culcare, timp de o lun\u0103, iar [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":true,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"saved_in_kubio":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-233","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-coaching"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/233","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=233"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/233\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":234,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/233\/revisions\/234"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=233"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=233"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.liviumacovei.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=233"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}